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The Power of Words: How What We Say Shapes Our Reality

Writer: Laurie GouleyLaurie Gouley

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Words are one of the most powerful tools we have. They shape our thoughts, our actions, and ultimately, our reality. The words we speak, both to ourselves and to others, carry energy and influence that can either uplift or diminish us.


When we say something, we are not merely making sounds; we are declaring beliefs, setting intentions, and programming our subconscious mind. Every word we utter is either a blessing or a curse, building us up or tearing us down.


Words Create Reality

Our words reflect our beliefs and, in turn, reinforce them. If you constantly say, "I am always so unlucky," you affirm that reality, and your subconscious mind will look for evidence to support it. If, instead, you say, "I am open to opportunities and good things happen to me," you create space for positive experiences.


Consider two people facing the same challenge. One says, "I can’t do this," while the other says, "This is tough, but I will figure it out." The first person has already closed the door on success, while the second has kept the possibility open. The difference is not in their circumstances but in their language and mindset.


Shifting from Obligation to Empowerment

Many people fall into the habit of using disempowering language. Phrases like "I have to" or "I need to" suggest obligation and burden, making tasks feel like chores rather than choices. A simple shift in wording can completely change how we feel about a situation.


Instead of saying:

  • "I have to work out."

  • "I have to eat healthy."

  • "I need to wake up early."


Try saying:

  • "I choose to exercise because I love how it makes me feel."

  • "I choose to nourish my body with healthy food."

  • "I choose to wake up early so I can have a productive day."


This small change in wording transforms the experience from something you are forced to do into something you are empowered to do. It creates a sense of ownership over your actions and decisions.


The Power of Self-Talk

The way we speak to ourselves has a profound impact on our confidence, motivation, and overall well-being. Negative self-talk, such as "I'm so stupid" or "I always mess things up," reinforces self-doubt and low self-esteem. But when we practice positive self-talk, we build resilience and self-belief.


Instead of saying:

  • "I’m terrible at this."

  • "I’ll never succeed."

  • "I always fail."


Reframe it to:

  • "I’m learning and getting better every day."

  • "Success is a journey, and I am making progress."

  • "Every setback is a lesson that brings me closer to success."


By changing your words, you change your self-perception, which ultimately changes your actions and results.


Words and Relationships

The words we use also shape our relationships. Harsh, critical words can damage trust and create emotional distance, while kind, supportive words strengthen bonds and bring people closer together. When we speak to loved ones with appreciation and encouragement, we build a positive atmosphere where relationships thrive.


For example:

  • Instead of saying, "You never listen to me," try "I feel unheard, and I’d love to share my thoughts with you."

  • Instead of "You’re always messing things up," try "I appreciate your effort, and I believe in your ability to figure this out."


Words have the power to heal or to hurt, to create connection or separation. Being mindful of how we speak to others can transform our relationships for the better.


The Words We Speak About Others

What we say about others also holds power. Gossip, criticism, and negative words don’t just affect the person being spoken about—they affect us as well. When we speak negatively about others, we reinforce a negative mindset within ourselves. On the other hand, when we choose to speak positively about others, we cultivate kindness and goodwill in our own hearts.


Instead of saying:

  • "She’s so difficult to work with."

  • "He’s never going to change."


Try:

  • "She has her challenges, but I can find a way to work with her effectively."

  • "Everyone has the potential to grow, including him."


By choosing words that uplift rather than tear down, we create a more positive environment both within and around us.


The Science Behind the Power of Words

Studies have shown that words have a measurable impact on the brain. Positive words activate the brain’s reward centers and increase motivation, while negative words trigger stress responses. Dr. Masaru Emoto’s experiments with water crystals demonstrated how words influence matter—when water was exposed to positive words like "love" and "gratitude," it formed beautiful, symmetrical crystals, while water exposed to negative words formed chaotic, disordered structures.


If words can affect water in such a profound way, imagine how they influence the human mind and body! (The human body is made up of approximately 60% water)


Choosing our words carefully is not just a spiritual practice but a scientifically supported way to enhance our well-being.


Practical Ways to Harness the Power of Words

  1. Practice Affirmations: Start each day with positive affirmations like "I am capable and strong," "I attract abundance," or "I radiate positivity."

  2. Reframe Negative Thoughts: Catch yourself when you use disempowering language and consciously rephrase your words.

  3. Speak with Intention: Before speaking, ask yourself, "Is this true? Is this kind? Is this necessary?"

  4. Encourage Others: Compliment and uplift those around you. Your words might be the encouragement someone needs.

  5. Journal Your Thoughts: Writing positive statements can help reinforce them in your subconscious mind.


Final Thoughts

Your words shape your reality. Every sentence you speak is either a step toward your best life or a step away from it. By choosing words of empowerment, positivity, and love, you can transform your mindset, your relationships, and your future.


So the next time you catch yourself saying, "I have to," remember—you always have a choice. Choose words that bless, uplift, and empower, and watch how your life transforms.


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